No one can make you miserable without your consent

By default, we all blame another person or situation for being hurt.

It is always difficult to take the blame solely on us.

But in reality, only we can hurt ourselves. 

If we did not let any pain to affect us, we wouldn't be anywhere near being hurt.

Let's put it into a perspective of something literal and physical. Let's use sports.

For example you tried to play tennis or football, and you got hit by the ball in the face, some may initially cry but to some they will tolerate the pain because they want to play more. They turned the pain into a learning process and translated it as fun rather than something outside their comfort zone.

So what if they get injured, bleed, or be in a fatal situation?

We'll our bodies have its own natural process of protecting us that is beyond our mind's control, where consent happens. To some, they give up and it makes them miserable as they walk away from their passion. Some may opt to be one of the people behind the sport instead of its spotlight, while some shift their passion and did not let misery and overthinking come near them and their dreams.

At the end of the day, it all boils down to your shift of perspective. 

When someone tells you hurtful words, and you translate it as care rather than anything opposing you, you tend to help yourself improve too.

If you linger in the feeling that "they don't know what you feel," for them to tell you that and you keep on recalling how much they oppose you rather than how much they care, you will never see the other side of the world which could actually be better than where you are.

Once you shift your perspective, you begin to make better decisions, and move quickly closer to your dreams.

It may initially require you to get out of your comfort zone, but it will all be worth it. Someday. Soon.