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Cry if you have to but only if you...

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Cry if you have to and it's okay to do so. It is not a bad thing to express your emotions. Never feel guilty about feeling sad. It was not your fault to begin with Go ahead, cry if you have to but only if you need it. If you cry make sure that it is only when you need it. You should not rely on crying to get others to respond to you or trigger others to put more attention to you. Don't fall to the trap of "the girl who cried wolf" and lost her emotional credibility during her most critical time. If you find the need, let the people you trust know. They will understand. If they didn't, you don't deserve to have them around. KEEP CRYING. You deserve the liberation. You deserve to unload. You deserve to feel better. You may not know yet until when you are crying, but the moment you feel better, set your limits. Set a boundary so that you won't get trapped on the temporary gratification of crying that might be exponentially satisfying yet blissfu...

I can't help but get ungrateful and it's okay

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When we were still kids, we are usually raised under the protection of adults around us. They would immediately pacify us everytime we would throw tantrums or start sobbing. As we age, responsibilities are put to our shoulders and this is when we start having more variations of our emotions. Gratefulness is the virtue of recognizing your privileges and being thankful of them. In this day and age of social media where it is easier to communicate to others what we have, it has also magnified how others happen to have more than us. It gets more complicated when social media starts projecting not just what we own materialistically speaking but the experiences and opportunities that are made available to the privileged ones. Everyday becomes a battle of getting up in the morning to put yourself together under the hopes that you'll have better luck at life today. It's okay if every now and then you feel ungrateful. Some days just are not as good as they would usually be. It...

Understanding happiness the hurt (hard) way

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It was around August 2018 when we found each other due to circumstances. We happened to have jived well and eventually agreed to date exclusively. You knew, while I realized, that we were both not ready yet. We loved the process of waiting and the patience it entailed. But as circumstances have brought us together, so has our parting. The circumstances around me has changed and this has affected our routine. Now we live different routines and priorities. You're coming was my way of learning happiness and your departure left me sobbing. It made me curl up and cry most days and not push through with work and my passion projects. But your parting was the start of my understanding. The understanding that happiness does not come from another person. It comes from within. Anything in the form of happiness that come from external factors is infatuation. It is perishable. The feeling is fleeting. If you really on such source, you never understood happiness. Today, at the ...